Divorce-aversary

©The New Elizabeth

Today is the two-year anniversary of the date my divorce was granted. In some ways it seems like forever, but it other ways as though it was only moments ago.

I was married for 25 years to a man who became increasingly abusive over the years. It was a hard, hard life. However, I took from that marriage 5 beautiful children, and I learned a lot about myself and about abuse. In the last couple of years, I have occasionally been able to help other women recognize abuse and find ways to stop it.

My ex-husband never hit me. I think it would have been easier if he had. Instead, he employed blame-shifting, gas-lighting, and other psychological abuse tactics. And then he had an affair, which is one of the worst forms of abuse in marriage.

How can you tell if you’re in an abusive relationship? Here are some links that may be helpful.

Characteristics of a Misogynist

Signs of Abuse

The Violence Wheel

I know this post has been a real downer. Sorry, folks. Mostly, I want to leave you with this… there IS life after divorce. Divorce is NOT the ultimate sin. You can be happy again when you break free from your abuser. My life isn’t perfect, but it’s good. It’s peaceful.